I got this in an email from AT&T:
According to a recent AT&T survey, 28% of texters ages 18 to 55 who are single and actively dating or married text their significant other at least three times a day. What’s more, 67% have used text messaging to flirt.
I’m a serial texter. In fact, I hate talking on the phone, but I love to text, do it all day long. So if I meet a guy who isn’t all that into texting I tend to take it as not all that into ME…when the truth may just be that he isn’t into texting. I hate when someone takes hours to respond, doesn’t respond at all or even when I can’t quite read the person through the text messages. I tend to over-do it…emoticons, excessive exclamation points, less room for misinterpretation in my opinion. So when I get a message from someone and it appears to be “short”, which could just mean he/she uses texting less to have full conversations as I do and more to communicate quickly. I have trouble remembering this sometimes, but I think I’m getting better at it. I hope I am anyway.
I guess my lack of phone interest could be misinterpreted by a man in the same way his lack of texting could be misinterpreted by me. I never, ever call people…unless I absolutely have to. I hate sitting on the phone having long conversations. I hate even just picking up my phone when it rings. But most people – women especially, I think – aren’t like this, so it could quite possibly come across as lack of interest and that’s soo not the case in most situations.
I recently met a guy who fits this bad texting profile, and after a short amount of time found myself writing him off due to apparent lack of interest. Sometimes he’d respond a few hours later, sometimes the next day, never anything really prompt or telling. I’d waited to text him until after getting one from him, and I’ll admit that because of how busy I was that day I took longer than usual to respond…and then the next couple messages I purposely delayed so as to not seem over eager. So perhaps I set the tone, and shouldn’t be annoyed when I suddenly decide to respond immediately and end up waiting.
Again, too much importance placed on the texting by me and I recognize this. But I had all but written him off, that’s the point. I hadn’t thought about him, hadn’t wondered about our next date, hadn’t even considered when I’d see him again. Instead I’d made up things in my head about him probably not being single and/or a playa or a salesman or something. I partially blame The Heartbreaker for this still, I’ll admit, but only as the afterthought.
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